Civility

Mindfullness, good manners and civility have something in common. These principles all share the goal of awareness of others and then making an effort to anticipate what they need . Civil behavior assumes that other people are worthwhile and worthy of respect This courtesy is extended one on one. Here’s a few ideas
Give a break to a mother with a cranky child by letting her ahead of you in the grocery line
Notice if someone needs a tissue or a glass of water in a meeting
Put your trash in the barrel in public places
Don’t drive while using the cell phone
Don’t use a cell phone in a public place where others can hear your conversation
Dress appropriately for the occasion
Allow an elderly person to go first or offer a hand to steady a step.
Be patient with a child that does not do things as quickly as you wish
The wakefulllness required is not about using the right fork but rather the practice of graciousness and consideration to make everyone feel welcome in our shared world.

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Service energizes the worker

People are sometimes under the impression that if they perform a service they will feel drained, have less energy and capacity to meet their own needs and duties. In practice this is found to be untrue. First you have to “show up”. Then you need to “give up your own agenda”. Next you must pay attention to the task…
Pretty soon, the job becomes rather engaging … as the eye watches the hand, or you attend to the sound where the instrument meets the surface… finer levels of efficiency and dexterity evolve, the elements at play reveal themselves, textures, weights, scents and sounds ripple through your awareness. You may find that for a moment or two the mind has stopped chattering and you were just there, present and easily moving along with a calm equanimity. When you are called to break you may feel a little tug to continue. Instead of less energy, the being finds it has experienced a moment of stress-less activity and joy. In place from our usual doleful attitude, we find ourselves connected to the group, curious about life and energized.

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